"The Raw Reality"

'Reality', a word that means a lot to everyone and nothing can be done about it by anyone. We grow up and make friends and then we have stronger relationships. Sometimes in life, we need to ask ourselves where and how has the reality of these relationships settled? At some point of time we start belonging to a relationship or friendship or maybe profession and then it eats on to us and our capacity to bear the pain. It will be the rarest of realities that are happy. We lose ourselves to someone else and then we keep thinking that destiny has made that choice but where did our decision-making power hide? We don't like a dress we choose not to buy it, we throw an old shoe away and eat the food that suits us best then why sometimes we make choices against our own will? That's where we end up hurting ourselves and few others who really care about us.

The brooding over past is definitely a common thing. Girls tend to do that more even though they can come out and get over a difficulty easily. It is because they need to manage the running of a home so they can't stay put at one particular moment. Somehow it is good to think about the actions in past and the consequences that made the present of our lives. We always say that we should live at the present moment but a present wouldn't have existed without a past and future will not if there is no present. It is interrelated how much we try to deny.

If we never made choices even after wanting to then we never get a chance again. We can never get back that day, that moment and that choice of that past time. We may be standing parallel to the same moment but the roads never meet. We try in an effort to revive happiness or revive our souls or make a difference in maybe someone's life, but it never ends well. There will be a kind of remorse and unhappiness about it. Someone if you have hurt is back as the same old friend then believe me it is not the same. If a job comes back to you it may have different responsibilities. The 'coming backs' definitely should get you stronger and leave you with a self-realization never felt before. But sometimes these also come with a price of their own......you can end up making a stupid mistake. The lesson learnt should be never to make a choice without our will and if made never to bring back or retain it or even 'ease' it.

We are meant to live our own lives, but in the process never make another life difficult. We should respect the way we were born, the capabilities we have got and the immense gift of thoughts and ideas. We should never let a moment's joy or grief affect our whole life. Most important, never let go of our own secrets, keep the greatest secrets with ourselves. The secret to a healthy self-respect!